Many men think that better photos do one thing above all else: generate more matches.
And yes, that is partly true. But what happens in practice is something more interesting.
With better photos, you not only attract more women, you especially attract other women to. Women you find more attractive. Women who fit better with where you are now in your life.
Photos determine who you attract
Dating apps work on the basis of first impressions. And that first impression is determined almost entirely by your photos.
The first picture opens the door.
The photos after that give an impression of the atmosphere.
Together they tell a story about:
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who you are
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how you are in life
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what stage of life you are in
And women respond not only to how you look, but to that overall picture.
Other pictures attract a different type of woman
This is something many men only realize after the fact.
Photos are not a neutral representation of yourself. They actively direct what women swiping at you.
A few examples:
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Serious, well-groomed photos in a suit or at a big event often attract women who are more serious in life themselves.
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Nonchalant, stylish pictures attract women who are mature but not stiff.
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Informal or sporty photos attract women who live more active or fitter lives.
It's not about right or wrong. It's about match your life stage.
Once photos get better, women also start liking your profile differently. Not just more attractive, but more serious.
The first photo defines everything
The first picture determines whether someone keeps looking. Point.
Then the following photographs create a feeling. An atmosphere. An image of what it would be like to meet with you.
Only after that comes the conversation.
If that first impression is not strong enough, you simply won't get there. Then you don't even have your foot in the door.
Conversations go easier with better pictures
This is an important point that many men underestimate.
Men with better pictures almost always notice the same thing:
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conversations run more smoothly
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women respond more readily
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agreeing feels more logical
Not because those men are suddenly better at talking, but because the attraction is already there.
Just look at yourself. If you find someone more attractive, that also just talks easier. You're more interested. It flows naturally.
When a woman doubts whether she finds you attractive, you feel it immediately in the conversation. Stiff, short, little initiative.
What better pictures do to men's behavior
I see this happening often.
Men who have few choices are much more accepting. They have conversations where they don't actually feel a click. They allow things to happen that don't suit them.
Once the pictures are better and the options increase, that behavior changes:
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they become more selective
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they are more themselves
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they filter better
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they become more relaxed in conversations
Not because they become arrogant, but because they have choice.
What to do with this practically
If you want to attract better women, you must first take an honest look at:
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what type of woman you want to attract
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what stage of life you are in
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what your pictures communicate about that
Also, feel free to ask women you know and trust. Not, “Do you like this picture?”
But, “what type of man does this come across as?”
About Datefoto
With DateFoto I help men take their dating profile to the next level.
From location to natural posing and styling. everything is tailored to what suits you and what women find attractive.
That's how you make the difference between no matches and real connections.
Book a photo shoot at DateFoto and discover how the right presentation can change everything
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