Many men think the secret to success on dating apps is in a good camera or expensive photos. That's not the case. An expensive lens will only help you if you know how you come across in pictures. And that's exactly where it goes wrong for most men.
I see it often enough: men who want to put themselves in a good light, but sabotage their profile without realizing it. Below I share the most common mistakes and what to do to avoid them.
Looking unkempt
A poor or sloppy appearance is the number one turn-off. Consider:
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No or a bad haircut
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Clothing that doesn't fit or looks old
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Overgrown beard or stubble
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Wrinkled shirts or poor light
The problem is not that women are “shallow.” They just want to see a man who is proud of himself. You don't have to look perfect, but you do have to look like you're trying.
2. Poor body language
Your body tells you everything. Many men are stiff in photos or have a tense, uncomfortable posture.
Or worse, they look into the camera with a look that is somewhere between lost and serial killer.
What does work? Relaxed, open and confident poses.
Nonchalance is more attractive than perfection.
3. Poor background
A background can make or break your photo. A dark bedroom full of junk brings down even the best outfit.
Put yourself in an environment that says something about you: a restaurant, a city walk, or just outside in natural light.
A photo in a beautiful setting automatically exudes more class and attention.
4. Group photos (and other “party shots”).
You don't have to prove to others that you have friends.
Group photos at festivals or drunken nights out say nothing about you, except that you don't have any photos that show yourself well.
Rather, choose a “date-like” setting: a photo in a restaurant or bar with a warm, inviting atmosphere. Such a shot works many times better.
5. Bad selfies
Selfies are not necessarily bad, but they become done wrong too many times.
A mirror selfie with clutter in the background or a weird angle is just not a good idea.
A selfie can work just fine if the light is right, the composition is right and you look relaxed.
But when in doubt: have someone else do it.
6. Women can't see you properly
Many men hide their faces behind sunglasses, hats or photos taken too far away.
You may think it's mysterious but in reality it's just frustrating.
Women want to know who they are talking to. Give them a clear picture, literally.
The four “tiers” of men on dating apps
I have found that men on dating apps fall roughly into four categories:
1. No idea what is happening
The man with bad selfies, weird photo angles and zero matches.
2. Thinks he gets it
He has read some blogs and “improved” his profile. Often he is also arrogant about his “knowledge” because his profile is ”above average”. But at the end of the day, he still has no matches.
3. Good profile
He gets matches, has conversations, and understands the basics. For many men, this is “good enough.”.
4. Top tier
The men who on a daily basis get dozens of matches. They know how to present themselves. often with good photos, a neat appearance and a relaxed look.
The difference between a good profile and a top tier profile? Presentation.
How casual do you come across? How do you appear on camera? And how well do you balance self-confidence and natural energy?
Small mistakes with big consequences
Some mistakes seem small, but cost you huge opportunities:
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Strange humor (such as PowerPoint jokes or “boys-only” memes)
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Negative bios About exes or “today's women”
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Photos with your children (Save that for later, it's counterproductive)
These things hurt your profile rather than show that you are “real.”.
Quick improvement tip
Want to score better today?
Ask your female friends which picture they like best and put that one as the first picture.
And very important: set the Tinder option “best photos” from.
You'll find out for yourself what works well.
The men who work with me
Most of the men who come to me are entrepreneurs or ambitious guys who have already worked on themselves.
They want to improve their dating life without spending hours figuring out what works or doesn't work.
As one of my clients said:
“I want to work with someone who knows what they're doing so I don't have to figure it all out myself.”
And that's exactly what I do: I help you get a profile that gets results without fuss.
About Datefoto
At Date photo I help men take their dating profile to the next level.
From location to attitude and styling - everything is tailored to what suits you and what women find attractive.
That's how you make the difference between no matches and real connections.
Book a photo shoot via Date photo and discover how the right presentation changes everything.
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